House Tearmainn

Hello world!

by on Sep.12, 2011, under Uncategorized

This is only my second post on this blog, and actually it’s really the first because the other one was taken from another context.

My philosophy is that i’m never finished learning and improving, and it’s hard for me to understand that my thoughts about where i’m at may be helpful to others when i see how far i still have to go.  And yet . . . when i first started out, i learned the most from some folks who weren’t any further along in things than i am now.  And i am developing a new friendship with somebody who is doing a pretty good job of convincing me that even if my wisdom isn’t all that, some of the tips and tricks Master & i have worked out over the years can be helpful for others. For instance, i shared with her a technique we use to help Master not feel nagged or pressured when i make suggestions. Master tends to be more in the “now” and have a broader sense of everything that’s going on in the moment, while i tend to be more future-oriented and keeping track of all the things that need to get done over the next few days. That means that sometimes i will lay out a plan of attack along the lines of “we need to do this, then this, then this,” and i can definitely be going full steam ahead without really, er, consulting with Him. I’m not usually insistent on “my way” or even think of it as “my way.” I just feel like it’s the path that’s the most logical and therefore almost inevitable. Of course He’ll want to do it the most efficient way that gets everything done!  Right?

Well, not so much. So i started labeling my plans as either “suggestions,” (i think this is the best method to move forward) or “ideas,” (we could do it this way; there may be a better way.) Right up front, “Master, i have a suggestion,” or “Master, i have an idea.”  We did this pretty consistently for a while, and it became easier for me to see that often His plans, while different from mine, can be just as efficient!  Shocking, i know.

So i am going to try to write on some kind of semi-regular basis for the next little while and see how it goes.  I am a little apprehensive that i won’t be able to keep it up for long because i hate to put stuff out there unless i’m positive it’s correct . . . and just as there’s no one true way in M/s in general, we spend a lot of time figuring out that even what works for us for one period of time needs to evolve and change for our dynamic to stay strong over time.  So this will be, like Master’s, a record of my own mistakes as we go as well!


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