House Tearmainn

I’m sorry to say so
but, sadly, it’s true
that Bang-ups
and Hang-ups
can happen to you

- Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You’ll Go!

girl violet has left us and will be missed. I think it was the best choice for her. They aren’t kidding when they say that LDR’s are hard, and doubly so when I have so many other responsibilities (including a couple to myself that had been completely neglected for a while). She was with us only a short time, 10 days, but I learned a lot from the experience and I hope that she was able to take something away from it as well.

A large part of what I learned is that I’m not a super hero. Sure, with pais around I can feel like one. One of the best things about this relationship is that I feel like I can do anything with that kind of support. I need to remember that feeling that way doesn’t make it true. I can’t fly under my own power. I can’t play the cello. I can’t overcome the time and distance issues well enough for that kind relationship to work for violet right now, no matter how much we both want it. 

No regrets, just lessons.

Life continues to be full of ups and downs and weird little turns. There are lots of interesting things going on, but nothing that seems appropriate to put up here. I intend to have violet start posting here since she enjoys writing and I enjoy reading her writing. I would also like to read what pais has to say, but her writing tends to be deeply personal and less appropriate for this venue.

I am, obviously, having some trouble staying on top of my various responsibilities. Priority shuffling hasn’t resolved the issue completely, but has made everyone feel neglected. It’s good to be consistent. I didn’t have a lot to cut back on to begin with, posting here has certainly suffered for it. Things are moving back towards a level of normalcy as everyone learns what they can expect, and I learn how to distribute my time and energy better. Everyone expected a period of adjustment bringing violet in, but that doesn’t quite make the transition itself pleasant.

The transitional period with violet is going to dovetail with more changes in the coming month as pais goes back to work, violet has various life changes around work and living situations, and I change jobs. Nothing is ever simple, though, and I suppose this will be good practice for us all in dealing with stress as a family.

Overall things are better, and back to “good”. One more good night’s sleep and I’m hoping things can creep back over the line to “awesome”. There is currently some discussion of how things will work when violet comes out to visit next month. I suspect this will be the topic of several upcoming posts, hopefully it will stay as positive and upbeat as it has been.

It would be irony if I was too busy writing about running a household to actually do it. I suppose it is better to be too busy running it to write. All I have to say on the topic is that I’m incredibly grateful to Google for their various apps, they make all of this so much easier for my detail-addled brain.

If I could get work to settle down (or, preferably, go away completely but continue to pay me) I would have a lot more to say about how I’m integrating violet. For now, though, I’ll just say that things are proceeding well on all fronts, and everyone seems to be happy. I’m very pleased and very, very tired.

I meant to post on this last night, but by the time all was said and done I was completely wiped out. Last night I offered a dear friend a position in the household as a submissive in service. Happily she has accepted!

Welcome, violet, we’re glad to have you.